YMCA friend says "That is a pretty blouse, it is the perfect color for you" I say thank you and walk away hearing in my head "the blouse is pretty and a nice color because I can't say you look really fat in that"
YMCA friend says "Cute bathing suit... Really I mean it, that is a cute suit" I say thank you and walk away hearing what she really meant.... "I am complementing the suit because your really should not be walking around in public in a bathing suit letting all that flab left over from weight loss show."
My reason is if someone gets a really bad hair cut, I don't say Wow! they really wrecked your hair. I say "your hair is a beautiful color" or something that is true, no what i think.
Do you find it hard to believe what people say to you? do you hear what they say and think what they really meant because they could not say?