Love and marriage, go together like a horse and carriage.. Of so Frank Sinatra Said.
There is no such thing as a perfect marriage, despite what the fiction novels tell us and the TV shows and movies.
The truth is sometimes I wonder what was I thinking, and sometimes I think mayhem thoughts. We argue, we fight, we blow up at each other. We bicker from dawn to dusk. Think Archie Bunker and Edith. I say white, he says black, we are just alike but different views.. he swears if I loved something I would say I don't just to be opposite of what he likes.
I KNOW I AM RIGHT and he is Wrong....the fun happens when we both want to be the HORSE!
The reason we do is because we are both Archie Bunker types. We both must be in control, must always have the last word, must always be RIGHT. Our type A personalities are identical. The only big difference is he is not a social person and I am....
One example of how he makes me crazy. 3 years ago we argued and fought for weeks over a SUV for me to drive.
In just a few days I sat in more than 30 cars, making him crazy (plus the salespeople crazy). I would see one I liked, open the door and sit in it and get out and say NO... he said its perfect. Perfect for whom? I said I can't see over the steering wheel. (I have NO butt at all, and sit low, putting my eyes level with most steering wheels, also if the car was to low to the ground I could not get in and out)
He is GM to the bone which limited a used car that would FIT me. I opened the door to the KIA Sorrento and said, it fits like a glove, I can see 360 degrees.
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| the horn in my Kia, it is gray not brown, this is an edit |
HE SAID if you want it lets get it and we did...I said it is not a GM.. he said If you like it, get it. It's a nice car.
Fast forward 3 years of flawless driving I got in the KIA and the dashboard was blinking nonsense about low tires and a few other things and he said
I WOULD NEVER BUY A KIA, I told you to buy GM......I will let you imagine the RESULT of that comment...think Fire and Brimstone and you might get close...
The one thing that has given us 33 years together is HUMOR.... sometimes we argue over such stupid things we burst into laughter.
22 comments:
You and Bob have a perfect marriage!! I mean you are perfect for each other! I can't imagine either of you finding any other mate that lives on the same time clock y'all do!! Plus you have FUN together!
Will, of course I knew you have arguments, and it is hard for him to hear you, too. But the thing is, you can take anything and make it perfectly funny! By the way, I have no butt either! So we are butt sisters now, too. I always lose weight in my butt first, and after all my diets, what is left now is nothing but wrinkles and no fat. It was never big in the first place, so that is not a place I wanted to lose weight! I prefer my upper arms and upper body. But we have no choice in the matter. You and Bob are PERFECT.
I think a true perfect marriage is whatever works for the two people involved and being able to stick it out through thick and thin. At least you two can laugh at your arguments. Here we both go in to the silent treatment. I'm much better at it than he is though.
Hari OM
A long time ago I knew I would not marry. I am much too individualistic! I do think relationships of any kind require tolerance and humour though! YAM xx
Hello Sandra!:) I agree with whatever works, but having a sense of humour helps. Long may you find laughter in your marriage Sandra. We will be celebrating our diamond next year!
My grandparents were kind of like that. They argued over things DAILY, and when she died, he stood by the casket and told everybody in town, "We never had a cross word in 60 years!" I guess they were meant for each other.
Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh MS it might appear the song should say love and marriage go together like 2 mules and a carriage. But of course that isn't as poetic ad horse and carriage. Marriage means compromise for sure and variety is the spice of life but in the end it is all about friendship and humor.
Hugs and oh I enjoyed this post
Cecilia
Oh my goodness you and Bob could be Sandie and Rick! Such a good story! Love, sandie
Of course he would say something!!! Oh well. My tire light comes on a few times a year because of extreme temperature changes. No big deal. I'm glad you got the car you wanted. Sounds a lot like Mark and I. As crazy as it gets I love him so much and we do laugh often.
Ahhhh.....that is the Perfect Marriage!!!
You really sound like us.
There is always the good the bad and the sometimes ugly...
but I love him and he...me....warts and all.
Sometimes just keeping my mouth shut is the only answer...
I guess that's why we made it through 54 years....why...that's a half a century
Doesn't that sound ancient?
The perfect part of your marriage is that you two know how to overcome the fights and bickering. You have humor and you talk. When my son married the only advice I gave him was communicate with each other. Seems like you and Bob...over communicate! haha....its all good, you got something going for you...33 yrs!
You two are hilarious! Great story.
Bahahahaha! I can't picture you as Archie Bunker-in-drag, but yours is a great analogy. (Dang, I miss that show.)
All I can say is I'm glad that works for you. Keep on having fun.
Thank you for being so real. Love despite the bickering. No marriage (that I've known of) is like the books or the romantic movies. But you make it all so funny... you make me laugh out loud at your descriptions of your bickering. Your funniness makes me know that there's lots of love behind the bickering ;)
I think a lot of us are like you and Bob. Some folks, I think, just don't like to admit they fight sometimes. Who doesn't, I say? If we never had disagreements from time to time, I'd think we weren't normal. We don't bicker all that often as we get older, but we've had our share of humdingers in the past. lol! He still loves me, because when we were talking about how old we're getting and what we'd do without the other when our time came, he said that he wanted to go when I go. Awww.
There is a lot to say about having spice in a marriage!
Oh you described marriage so well! Its ups and downs, part of life. Glad you found one you could see out of, thats important lol. Dangerous we all want to be right lol We been married 33 years on Friday.
no relationship is perfect... but 33 years definitely means serious commitment from both of you! you are an inspiration.
Sweet Sandra I think you and Bob do have a perfect marriage because you have in my opinion described exactly what marriage is about. Humor is the best thing to help anything be successful. I think back a lot now over the times my hubby and I laughed until we cried and our sides and stomach hurt and something we did or said...sometimes in the midst of an argument. A perfect marriage is not when everything is wonderful but when that marriage holds together through ALL and humor and love are still there. Hugs
Well, I messed that comment up for sure. LOL Hope you can make sense of it.
Oh, gosh, humor has saved us through so much.
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