While on FaceTime with my brother and his wife, he showed me his birthday gift from his 17 year old granddaughter. A toy that says Stop It.
He sent me to YouTube to find Bob Newhart's, STOP IT! I am smiling as I just type the words. I suggest you watch this video. I have watched it 3 times.
I wrote the words STOP IT in red and placed it on my fridge, since it is the most opened door in the house, ha ha and all my meals are eaten at the breakfast bar and it's IN MY FACE.
STOP IT! has become my anthem/chant, my shout is heard silently in my head, spoken entirely to myself.. It works.
There are things a caregiver should not do, when dealing with dementia.
Don't reason.
Don't argue.
Don't confront.
Don't remind them they forget.
Don't question recent memory.
Don't take it personally.
All of these is the norm for the two of us. We have each done these things on a daily basis, we are two peas in a pod.
To break the habit, when I start to do one of these, I shout in my head.
STOP IT!
I still forget once in a while, but there is much more peace in the house since Stop It moved to the fridge.
When Bob asked me what it was there, what it meant, I watched the video with him, and said its there to remind me to not fight with you, to not argue, to not yell, to not get angry. He said, Good idea.
This works for any problem you might have. I am keeping this brief because I want you to Stop and watch Stop It! Don't leave without watching it.
PS I keep saying to my MIND Racing, STOP IT! nope, did not work
Bob Newhart - STOP IT! The best two word coaching you'll ever get ...
watch on YouTube or below, its six minutes that has changed my life. truly
I am a big fan of Bob Newhart. His wit was always so dry and I would continuously laugh out loud. I remember his phone calls to people, one as if he was talking to Sir Walter Raleigh about tobacco was always my favorite. And now two little words have a lot of power and such great advice.
I’ll watch the video later, but it’s certainly good advice. One of Miriam’s sisters has reached the stage where she is losing short term memory, and she will tell the same story, word for word, three times in an hour. We just smile and make like we never heard it before. I hope you are both reciprocally patient with each other.
It breaks my heart that you're having to deal with this. Every day. How stressful! "Stop It" is good advice. My step-Mom Myra had ALZ. She would actually become violent if she felt confronted. I learned to not engage with her too much. That disease is scary too. Blessings. 💓
Thank you, Sandra, and especially Bob Newhart for sharing what can be 2 of the best pieces of advice for everyone. I would also add patience as another good word.
OMG, that video has me laughing so hard. Stop it is good avice. It sounds easy but the reminder is a good one. I'm glad that Bob thought it was a good idea too. Years ago, at work, I did something similar but with different words. It was to remind myself not to let a certain employee get to me. Looking at it always made me smile because only I knew what it really meant.
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Great video, great advice. 😊
I am a big fan of Bob Newhart. His wit was always so dry and I would continuously laugh out loud. I remember his phone calls to people, one as if he was talking to Sir Walter Raleigh about tobacco was always my favorite. And now two little words have a lot of power and such great advice.
We both watched all of it. Never saw it before, and so funny! But I would look at your note, and never remember what it is I should stop!
I always loved Bob Newhart - so dry and deadpan, so thank you for this clip/
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Good morning,
The video was so funny, the words Stop It are great advice to ourselves. Thanks for sharing! Take care, have a great day!
I’ll watch the video later, but it’s certainly good advice. One of Miriam’s sisters has reached the stage where she is losing short term memory, and she will tell the same story, word for word, three times in an hour. We just smile and make like we never heard it before. I hope you are both reciprocally patient with each other.
It breaks my heart that you're having to deal with this. Every day. How stressful! "Stop It" is good advice. My step-Mom Myra had ALZ. She would actually become violent if she felt confronted. I learned to not engage with her too much. That disease is scary too.
Blessings. 💓
Thank you, Sandra, and especially Bob Newhart for sharing what can be 2 of the best pieces of advice for everyone. I would also add patience as another good word.
OMG, that video has me laughing so hard.
Stop it is good avice. It sounds easy but the reminder is a good one. I'm glad that Bob thought it was a good idea too.
Years ago, at work, I did something similar but with different words. It was to remind myself not to let a certain employee get to me. Looking at it always made me smile because only I knew what it really meant.
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