I did not want to celebrate the movie Clueless or sign up for Paramount Plus Streaming, but I did want to see if I could copy cat from the ad asking me to sign up for it.
First Try is cute, but considered a Fail, even though Beau always makes me feel happy.
I did a little better with me on the next try but really, its a lot of work and it will not happen again. I did like trying it.
I am smiling in this photo, it is not current, but 2 years old. I am dealing with bobs physical illness but its the Mind Illness that is the biggest problem and is the reason I need to rest my mind by focusing on something else.
Bob has lost most of his words, and I have to figure out what he wants, needs or is telling me.
I helped him back to bed from the bedside commode, and helped him with is pull ups and said, I am going to the desk top to pay Bills, they are all due today. I explained why I would be out of his sight, because he gets upset if he can't see me.
30 minutes later, he yelled down the hall, I need to get off this crapper if you can get time. I came to the bed and said Bob, you are in bed, not on the potty. He looked around and said Oh, I was asleep and thought I was still on it. I meant I need a clean shirt. His filter for what he says is gone, he just says whatever he is thinking and curse words are common. One of the PT's called him on it, and said, God is not damned Bob, and Bob said What? He had no idea he even said it..
I have found I can not reason with him at all and it really upsets him.
With 24/7 of all of this, I need an escape! These drawings allow me to sit where he can see me and tell me stories for the 87th time that day, and lose myself without him noticing.
If any of you have death with Alzheimer's and have suggestions, please leave them for me.
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My Therapy Kitties, One Dark, One Light
Just another bit of Procreate Therapy for my stressed-out brain. It makes me stop Thinking, changes my focus to something I love to do..
Below is a good example of mind therapy for me. It took a lot of time to do the one below yet it looks simple. I used an old photo of Beau and his Mama and used a copy cat drawing from past post. This one takes concentration and focus!
Just what I need.
Telling this to all of you, is like telling it to you in person.
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The one thing I recall being told is: "Go where they are." If Bob says, help me off the toilet, reply, of course I'll help you. If he says it's raining outside on a bright and beautiful day, say yes ... maybe the rain will stop soon and the sun come out. If he asks you to turn the TV on when it's already on, go to the TV, make a gesture to turn it on and ask him if this is the channel he wants. GO WHEREVER HE IS, in HIS MIND. It will work best for both of you ...
I hope you can find a new way to comunicate with less words? and I hope you can find peace in some things like da beau or drawing or doing something just for you...
And BTW, that PT who called him for using bad language: take her aside and scold her for it. She should know better. Dementia/Alzheimer's patients often OFTEN use bad language and it should be overlooked, PLEASE, and even more often FORGET words. The "listener" probably knows the word they mean, can fill in the blank. Don't admonish the patient, rude/not necessary, demeaning to Bob and to YOU, his wife and caregiver.
I agree - be with Bob wherever he seems to be in his mind.
I think your ways of dealing with stress are working well for you.
Hugs.
Big healing hugs, my friend. You'll figure out how to make this easier for the both of you.
Have a fabulous day and week. Scritches to handsome Beau. ♥
Glad you have something that works for you as mental therapy for yourself!
My main experience of "dementia conversations" was with my dad. (I did not live with him though.) As others have said here, it was no use trying to correct strange things he said. He seemed to dream a lot when nodding off and then thought those dreams were reality. Like he might tell me he had been off travelling for a weekend, when I knew he could not possibly have been... But to him it was "real". So at least when it's not of vital importance probably better to go along with it!
I'm glad you are taking the time to work on things like this. It is a nice escape for you. What you are going through is so hard. ((HUGS)) Of course Bob can't help himself to say those things. I like you behind the bars with the smile. Take care and keeping all of you in my prayers.
Sandra I'm so glad you have the blog and your iPad to draw both put your mind in a good place.
Hugs X3
Cecilia
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