7 weeks, since Bob stopped walking on 3/27, and can only walk by using a Walker, only point a to point B, using his upper body strength to do that. While in hospital his BP was lower than usual, THEY said because he was in bed, and at home it continues until yesterday it was 110/50 and way to low.
Its been 9 days, 9 of the Longest Days of My Life, since I told you this blog is closed temporarily.
No change, still the same as the March 28th, when he woke up unable to walk unassisted.
home from hospital a week now, still the same even with 5 days with 3 nurse, 3 therapist visits, none of which has changed his condition at all. We tried to cancel nurses and have only therapists, nope, he needs a nurse. Memory and not walking. OT comes today with plans for making bathrooms safe for him, not safe for our savings. I am still standing, but do a lot of crying.
a photo is worth a thousand words, The blood thinner, Chain Saw Massacre several times ✅ foot prints in red a trail from bath to sofa ✅ I did not cry as I sprayed the trusting bottle of peroxide even though tears have been common for the past week.
Beau had an ear infection, he is doing great, Vet let me order drops by email and I just picked them up.
I cut my hair All By Myself! I even did the back,
I asked Bob to take a photo of the back, he ended up with 4 photos, 3 of his walker and one of his finger over the lens. We laughed long and hard.
Exhaustion Is My Middle Name. While seeking my cousins wisdom by phone, she said Just order your groceries, I order all of mine. She said she loves Walmart delivery.
Sunday morning I went to the Walmart app in my phone, at 6 am, signed up for Walmart +, for price of 98 per year, free shipping and free delivery from store. I picked a delivery time of 11 to 1, same day delivery, with instructions to leave on front porch. Tip is added and paid for with groceries.
Sunday 11:40 AM, my First Delivery from Walmart
Bob is on the throne,
my hands are buried in the meatloaf mix,
I hear a car door slam in driveway
I lift pot of green beans off burner, leaving burner on
peer out window at driveway, delivery girl is getting in car.
I open door and the entire porch floor is covered in bags, and bottles of pool chemicals
(I did not specify leave on bench)
while saying, Beau get back, Beau get back,
I hear shouting from the throne, WHAT ARE YOU DOING?
over my head the fire alarm starts SHRIEKING!
The throne voice shouts over and over, turn it off! Get a ladder! (he knows he can reach it but I can't)
I don't answer because I am trying to turn it off with my dads CANE.
I shriek, I AM TRYING! SHUT UP!
Throne shouts, STOP IT STOP IT
I SHOUT I AM TRYING while standing on foot stool trying to reach over my head without falling and Beau is whirling in circles around the stool because the shrieking is hurting his ears.
I realize the reason it did not turn off is the BURNER IS STILL ON PUTTING OUT HEAT.
I step carefully down from the stool, race to kitchen, turn off burner and back to the stool and The Quiet Returns and at that moment the 12 noon Cell Alarm goes off playing a song to warn me to TAKE MY VITAMINS.
Shouting from throne changes to The Phone Is Ringing, I turn it off and it changes to
Who was that, what is going on.
Walmart brought the groceries. What Groceries? He has forgotten I ordered them.
I get him up and out and down on the sofa and say calmly, Lunch will be late, no really, I did say it calmly while we laughed and laughed at the comedy of errors our life has become.
Bob's lunch plate was late, I call it that because I can eat the potatoes and about 6 beans and the pickled beets with my rice pasta.
My apologies for posting, and not reading yours posts, but it took me 3 days to type this. I still snap photos of any/all things for just in case I return to blogging.
38 comments:
Hari OM
Good to have this update, Sandra - and to read that you and Bob are managing to have a giggle or more at some of the horrid stuff that age is bringing upon. I swear by home delivery when back in the Hutch - it really does save so much angst. These days, everything can come to one's door... Worry not about the blog, but we will all be here ready to 'listen' when you do manage a post! Big hugs, YAM xx
Ooooh lady, I know it's not funny. Nevertheless, I'm giggling and aghast at the same time. (You really need to be a script writer in Hollywood.) So glad to know the two of you still laugh together at the situation. What's that saying, you gotta laugh -- or cry. Sometimes a little of both.
PS - The plate you prepared for Bob looks both attractive and delicious!
Sandra, this is a lot. I'm sorry for all you are dealing with. Glad you are still laughing even though there is crying too.
Your hair looks great!
Don't worry about visiting us, and thanks for the update. Praying for you!
What a life we live these days...mine is not quite as entertaining...but I know your pain...
What I got out of this post is you crying so much. I know this is a huge weight on you. Been there and done that. Take care of you. It's so hard to care for someone that's no longer mobile. Big healing hugs all around. ♥
Nothing wrong with crying - it’s a release and one you need. Laughing is also a release so that’s good and to laugh WTH a lived one, amplifies the feeling. You have so much on your plate right now. I appreciate you checking in. Continued prayers! 🙏🏻
Sandra...I'm so sorry I know the alarm going off scared you they are so loud and shrill. I 100% agree with everyone nothing wrong with a bit of crying it relieves a lot of pent up stress.
Happy to hear Beau's ear is better. I agree with YAM take care of you and the Double B's we are here when you have time.
Love and Hugs cecilia
Even though this post took you a long time, Sandra, thank you for the update on what's been going on with Bob, Beau and yourself. You are having a difficult time but still managing to get in some laughs after the crying. Please feel free to vent and post whenever you can, your blog friends care.
Thank you for the update. There isn't a day goes by that I don't think of you and all you are going through. Love and hugs from all of us.
Thanks for the update. No need to read blogs until you are ready to. You don't have to read others in order to post on yours. Everyone understands.
I'm glad you at least had a moment or two that you could laugh at what was going on. Sometimes you just have to do that. Then again having a good cry is certainly ok too. Whatever gets you through the day.
First of all, I'd rather have updates on you - then you read my posts. I am relieved just to see you here.
GREAT about Walmart - You will get things worked out.
When a fire alarm is ringing - try to take something like a paper plate and wave it under it - it might stop sooner.
I am glad you and Bob have some laughter moments - although I know it is not laughing matter.
Crying is okay too!
Hello, Sandra
Thanks for the update, I am thinking of you often, prayer things get better for you. It is good you can laugh at yourself. Your hair looks good. It is a great idea to have Walmart deliver , some pet meds can be delivered too. Do not worry about visiting my blog, you have enough going on there. Take care of yourself, Bob and Beau.
It's good to giggle and laugh even if one feels that one's world is crumbling. I'm comforted to know that no matter what happens y'all have Jesus. God's got this. All we put up with here is temporary messes.
Glad you're having the groceries delivered. Maybe up a big open box on the front porch? Would that help?
Thank you for the update. Still praying for you both daily. Wish I could help with even more.
Love ya kuz'n & friend. 😎❤️
Thankful for the update on both Bob and yourself. Bless your heart, what a disaster of a day, but at least there were laughs as well. My daughter does Walmart on line grocery shopping each week..it works great for her. Saying a prayer for you all right now. If I lived near by, I would certainly be there to help you.
Yes, that blood pressure does seem low. I am so sorry to hear that they haven't been able to help Bob. This is so hard on you. My heart aches and I think about you all the time. ((HUGS)) Sorry about Beau's ear. You did a great job on your hair. Glad you signed up for deliveries. That should be a big help. Sorry about the alarm going off. His plate of food looks great. Thank you for posting and God Bless You, Bob and Beau. You take care. I'm worried about you. Love, Debby
to laugh together even when it was a hard one what hurts in your cheeks is a good sign that you have still something together.... it is a hard and sad time for you 3... and for the blood, we have this often too. the blood thinner is a devil in disguise.. but it is needed... sigh...
this all makes us very sad. But we are glad you are getting at least some help. Online grocery orders is the way to go. Take all the help you can get, and spend the money where it is needed. It is only money and you need help NOW. We pray for you all every day. Laugh when you can, and try to find even a minute here or there for YOU.
HUGS!!!
I just can't imagine. And in this multi-crisis, you still managed to make a lunch that looks wonderful to me. I am much more worried about you than I am Bob. He is running you ragged and doesn't even comprehend it.
I'm so sorry to hear life has been so difficult for you lately. It's never easy being a care giver. Make sure to take time for yourself whenever you can. Just know I'm thinking about you often and hope things can get better soon.
Dear Friend Sandra, I'm sorry to hear about Bob. I have not been blogging lately so missed out on your news. Take care of yourselves. Love from Linda P in the UK.
Thank you for the updates, and please take care of yourself as best you can. WalMart delivering is a blessing. Every little bit helps. Sending love and hugs and prayers.
Oh my!! What a "comedy routine" that could make, but I know it wasn't funny to you at the time. It amazes me that after all of that you were able to present such a pretty plate of food to Bob...it's colorful and healthy and interesting enough to eat! I'm glad you discovered Walmart delivery. That can certainly be a life saver! I have not ordered fresh foods from them yet, but I do order a lot of dry goods/bulky items. And please don't worry about reading and replying, etc. to us. we understand and don't expect you to do that. But it is nice to have an occasional post from you as you are able so we know what's going on and how we can pray for you. I love your hair cut, btw. You did a great job. (((hugs)))
I hear and understand your pain. John was pretty much disabled by in Oct. 2022 to March 2023 and I was on the run all the time. exhausted and emotionally worn out, I was lucky to have my daughter bring food over, and set me up with door dash. I hope and pray that you can get help, that Bob improves. You did a great cut! During covid when beauty parlors were closed, I cut my hair too. First and second times looked pretty good, but the 3rd time was bad. I hope you get relief and Bob improves. I am praying for you and Bob. I promise.
I read this post/update and laughed and cried along side of you. It is very hard to be in your shoes, and while the help you have coming in doesn't seem to be doing anything, at least they can see how it is, and maybe they can offer other solutions.
My only help is that I can and do pray for you, Bob and Beau as you are in this awful hard place right now, to give you strength, patience and hope. I hope that there may be even a wee bit of improvement coming along.
Thankfully those delivery services are such a blessing, and hey, if you can cut your hair that well, maybe there is another kind of job in the future?? Just kidding!
Sending tons of love and hugs.
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You do well to both find the humour and write with humour when it gets heavy like that. Sorry but I did laugh - I just hate smoke alarms. They seem to have a malicious streak, a nasty sense of humour about when to start shrieking.
I'm glad to know you're both still able to laugh sometimes - in between tears... Good that you can have groceries delivered, I've had home deliveries from my local supermarket every fortnight for over ten years now - at higher cost, but well worth it for me. (I honestly don't know how I would have managed without it.) Hugs, and I hope the OT can come up with some smart and helpful solutions for you (and not too costly).
It is a testament to your strength of character that you can laugh through all of this, Sandra. What you are having to go through is quite awful and I can barely imagine how you cope. Perhaps composing this post took your mind off it, even if ever so briefly. If thoughts and prayers worked you would be done with all of this tomorrow. Everyone is rooting for you. Stay strong if you can. Best wishes - David
So sorry to hear all this. Your sense of humour is intact and that must help. I hope you can find some proper answers and help soon.
I just wanted to say that we are all thinking of you and sending good vibes as you go through such a terribly difficult time. A big hug to you.
Sending tons of love and lots of prayers...from one cryer to another...I get it...
BIG HUG
Donna
(((hugs))) my dear friend. You are doing amazingly well for all that's on your plate. Continued prayers and you did a terrific job on your hair cut.
Don't forget to take care of yourself
Sue
So sorry to hear of your dilemmas. It is so good that you can still have a laugh now and then and write a post that makes me laugh (and cry). I have a vague idea of what you are going through. Your dramas sound the same as what I went through when Bill had a fall and a busted knee for weeks and weeks. He couldn't get out of bed by himself or walk. It was a nightmare but thank goodness he got better but now he has memory problems. We get groceries delivered too. It is sad that you aren't able to post often I will miss you. I so do hope Bob will improve and you can laugh more than cry. You still manage to cook lovely meals. We don't! We get Lite'n'Easy meals delivered. Sending big hugs.
Thanks for the update.
Thinking of you and keeping praying for you and Bob.
sending lots of love and positive thoughts your way. Take good care of yourself (((Hugs)))
I love you, Sandra and thought I had commented but after reading your post again, I see I had not. Life is hard and you are doing the best you can. I admire you and your sense of humor that keeps you sane. I admit that I am struggling but am not dealing with all the issues you are. LD is basically a happy man and I am grateful beyond words for that. I'm still praying for you everyday and and I feel the prayers you pray for me.
OK, gonna try again...Glad to see you and Bob are giggling about all this insanity. Better to laugh than to cry, right? And don't be concerned about not visiting any blogs. As your friends, I know we all understand that. Lots of love and prayers for you both and for precious Beau.
Thinking of you and Bob.
My heart goes out to you and yours.
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